This post is a bunch of sappy thoughts, all jumbled up into an attempt to state my excitement to share my life with someone else. There’s no way I could come close to putting that excitement into words, so don’t judge me for trying.
Earlier this week I had the opportunity to attend my best friends wedding and it just reminded me of how much I look forward to making my life be about somebody else. To look outside myself and take the time to appreciate my significant others passions, talents, likes and dislikes. Although I will always be my own person and have my own opinions, I’m beyond ready to make sacrifices and allow someone else to take up a huge part of my life.
People always tell me, “Have fun while you’re single! Date around! Do whatever you want!” But I’m the type of person that hates dating around, I’m too loyal for my own good, and I actually look forward to making plans and enjoying life with my future husband. Obviously no relationship is perfect, but I want to do what I can now to hopefully become the person that my future husband will need and want within his life.
This brings us to the topic of how I can be sacrificing and preparing now for my the man that will become my future. Being married and creating a life with a significant other has been a concept I have looked forward to my entire life. And I think it’s a concept I can begin to work on now, even while being single.
First off, not caving to what the masses say. Dating around has never been my thing, making out on the first date has never been my thing, playing games has never been my thing. There’s no point. If you aren’t comfortable playing games or dating multiple people at once, don’t do it. Think about it this way, do you want to end up marrying someone that plays games and makes out with every person they go on a date with? If your answer is no, then you shouldn’t be doing those things either. Hold yourself to the same standard you expect from your future spouse.
I am beyond picky, I won’t just settle for whoever comes along. I think this is a good thing because investing your life into someone takes a lot and you deserve someone that is invested in you, just as much as you are invested in them.
A lot of people have asked, “how will your blog change when you have a man?” and I’m not exactly sure what the answer to that question is, I’ll likely be more private and take into account how my significant other feels about it. Often times I wear my heart on my sleeve, I am loyal to a fault and I am too vocal about how I feel. I’ve contemplated not being this way anymore because doing so has yet to end well within dating. But guess what, eventually someone will appreciate this, and the sacrifice of having my heart broken time and time again will be worth it.
I’ve also decided to sacrifice financially now, in order to prepare for my future marriage. My passion for traveling has been put on hold (to an extent) and instead of jetting around the world, I’ve started saving that money for my future marriage. This same concept goes along with cutting back where I can to put that money towards my future. People think I’m crazy for putting off something that makes me happy (like traveling or getting a cute new outfit) to save for a person that isn’t currently in my life, but hey, I’d rather travel with my future eternal companion than by myself or spoil them anyways. Thinking about depending upon someone else and allowing them to depend upon me, giving that person something to look forward to, giving myself completely to someone else, absolutely gives me the chills. If I could shout “I’m ready for you!” from the rooftops I would. But for now this will have to do.
Personal Growth. Spiritual Growth. Financial Growth.
There’s so many ways, big and small to prepare for a future companion and my heart skips a beat just thinking about it. With all of this being said, I may put a pause in the whole blogging about dating thing because I want my focus to actually be on dating instead of writing about it. At least for now, it’s just one more thing I’m considering working on. In the meantime, there are much more interesting things to blog about anyways. End Note: I’m sure nobody cares about this and I feel like none of it made sense, but I’m going with it anyways haha!