Swipe Right. Swipe Left. We all know how it goes. Tinder, Bumble it’s all the same. I’ve had these apps on and off for a while now and if I’m being 100% honest about it, I think they are awful. And frankly I’m not amused. Most of the time when I am swiping I base it simply off of photos or if that person wrote out a biography or not. And although I try to create genuine conversation and I’ve met some seemingly great guys, it’s never really been anything below the surface. I am not in a place to point fingers because conversations that go beyond being superficial take effort from both parties but I’ve hit a point where I am over all of it.

What ever happened to being asked on a date in person or over the phone as opposed to being asked via snapchat or a DM? What happened to a genuine spark fueled by something more than social media? Sending flowers instead of sending emojis? Call me old school or unrealistic but I’d like to believe I can meet someone in person & not have to rely on social media for someone to ask me out.

Tinder feels shallow, and that is not the way I want to enter into a possible relationship. I don’t like analyzing someone based off of what photos might be on a profile, the wording chosen for a bio, or a pick up line that might be used. Nor do I like the idea of someone analyzing me based off of the same things. People deserve more of a chance than that. So you may be thinking, ‘that’s why you go on a date or two with them right?!’ or ‘It’s not always shallow depending on the attitude you have about it.’ Correct, but in the same sense it’s hard to not have the thought in the back of my head that using Tinder or Bumble is not the way I want to meet someone I could date. If that statement makes me seem shallow than fine, so be it. But when I envision telling my friends, family and future children the story of ‘How we met’ I don’t want to settle for a sentence involving ‘Tinder’. I know plenty of happily married couples who met via dating apps and I’m so happy that it worked for them, but it’s just not something that is a fit for me. Almost all dates I get asked on are via social media, maybe that’s my own fault, maybe I’ve allowed it to be ‘Okay’ or maybe I don’t put myself in enough situations to be asked out on dates in person. Today’s world is so over-run by social media and let’s face it, social media does allow so many ways to meet awesome people, so it’s something that is hard to avoid. But personally, I would much rather get to know someone over a lunch or dinner date than have our conversations be overtaken by snapchat or messages on tinder. So I decided to delete both tinder and bumble in order to hopefully meet someone & find that happiness outside of dating via social media. Here’s to being old school.

XOXO

Lex