Something has been happening lately. This blog post might make zero sense  because I started with one idea and as I wrote something completely different happened..Whoops! BUT I’m here to tell you that dating doesn’t have to be horrible! PSA: There are good ones out there!

I’m still very much so single but over the last while I have realized that when you are dating the right kind of people, it’s shockingly not a horrible experience. It’s baffling. 

Seriously though, there are guys and girls out there who will genuinely want to get to know you and have open and deep conversations with you. Who will treat you kindly and want to spend time with you. Who will pick up the phone and call, who will spoil you, the whole nine yards.

When it comes down to it that’s what dating is all about, spending time with someone, getting to know them as a person and deciding if you want it to develop into something. Obviously things won’t work with every single person you go on dates with but that’s okay because it doesn’t need to work with everyone, it just needs to work with someone you want to progress in a relationship with.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on dates I haven’t enjoyed and I’ve been on dates that got my hopes up only to have my hopes let down 5 minutes later. But in the last 8 or so months I’ve really allowed myself to actually enjoy the experience of going on different dates with guys that weren’t complete ***holes..and it’s game changing.

So how did I start enjoying dating? How did I figure out how to date the good ones?

First off, you won’t ever enjoy dating if you aren’t willing to recognize what you deserve. If you think you deserve someone that never puts in effort thats what you’re going to get. If you think you deserve someone that thinks the world of you, that’s what you’re going to get. You essentially get what you are willing to settle for. So don’t settle.

Second, I had to realize that it’s okay to enjoy the process of going on dates. I used to always dread going on dates and it wasn’t worth it. I started only going on dates that I was looking forward to. If I wasn’t excited about it, I wouldn’t go. I also had to realize that it’s okay to go on dates with different people-I’m way too loyal for my own good. Going on dates with different people is exactly what dating is! As soon as I allowed myself to actually enjoy the process of going on dates, it made it that much better. As you go on these dates you’ll be able to notice the little things, the characteristics and qualities that you either do or don’t want. The bar will be raised or it won’t. 

Third, it’s all about attitude. I know I’ve said this before but if you go into a date with an open mind and a hope to have fun you will have a much better time than if you go into it with hesitation!  You can’t doom the date before it even begins. Yes, there are a million reasons why it might not lead to a relationship BUT that doesn’t mean that it can’t happen. You’ve got to have a positive outlook on it, otherwise it will only ever end negatively. Stop doubting and start believing. With that being said it’s okay to have expectations, it’s okay to want a relationship that gives you butterflies. After all, you have SO much to offer. If someone can’t recognize that, like Ariana said, “Thank u, next!”

There are good guys out there. There are amazing girls out there. It might take some searching, you might go on dates with a lot of ‘good ones’ and ‘bad ones’. When you take time to notice the little things that people do it will be easier to notice the ‘good ones’. 

What it ultimately comes down to is this: You attract what you think you deserve and you are worthy of love. 

PS: In case you were wondering it felt like -10 degrees when I took these photos. I was absolutely frozen haha in case you couldn’t tell by my ‘look happy even though you’re a popsicle face!’ HAHA

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