Okay, if you made it through my first YouTube video above, THANK YOU-Make sure to watch in HD. And to all you YouTubers out there, props to you! That was NOT easy! I have wanted to incorporate videos and YouTube segments within my blog for years now and I decided it was finally time to make that dream become a reality. I’m still learning so don’t worry they will get better! Feel free to subscribe to my channel if you want to see all of my future videos!

Now onto tonights blog post topic: The guilt that sometimes comes with dating. Have you ever had to break things off with someone and felt incredibly guilty about it? I have and let me tell you it is the absolute worst feeling ever. Walking around with pits my stomach, second guessing, thinking I’m an idiot for walking away from someone great, tears, yelling, the whole nine yards. Some people can break things off and be completely fine, I am not one of those people.

That feeling made me understand why God decided to let me have my heart broken so many times-because to me I’d rather have my heart broken than to have to break someone else’s. BUT guess what…it’s a part of dating and although I have despised each time I have ended things with a potential suitor it’s something that has to happen. After having to experience this feeling of guilt a few different times in the past couple of years I really started to dig into why it was happening and how I could stop feeling this way.

Well we are all human and we all have to make hard decisions, especially when it comes to dating. As I thought about this topic I realized it isn’t something I want to completely stop feeling because if I didn’t feel the guilt of possibly hurting somebodies feelings than I’d be throwing away an emotion that makes me empathetic and real. If you are feeling guilty about ending things take time to appreciate it, really think about it and allow it to make you stronger. But do not dwell in it. Doing this gets you nowhere. Put yourself in that persons shoes, but also think about if the roles were reversed how the person breaking up with you might be feeling. I’m sure you’re thinking “Lexi, I’ve been broken up with so many different times and that person didn’t show one ounce of emotion at all.” Take a second to realize that you may never know how that person is feeling, guilty or not, all you can do is control how you react to it and how you choose to handle it.

The reason behind why this feeling of guilt sometimes comes with dating, in my mind, can be explained by a couple of reasons: One, it means you cared about this person and this is a good thing. A big part of dating is taking the time to form a connection with another person and figuring out if you fit or not. When you are taking the time to get to know someone you are allowing them into your life and naturally you should begin to care, even if it isn’t in a romantic way. Two, I think it ultimately helps you get closer to the person you are meant to be with. A big part of dating is figuring out what we want and what we don’t want, the only way to do that is to actually date, which means, there might be a time or two when you will experience feeling the guilt of a breakup. My cousin and I were talking about this topic a while ago and she shared something with me that changed my perspective on it. Think about it this way, you will either be broken up with or be breaking up with people until you find the one person that works. Don’t feel guilty for being honest.

I’ll admit, I ended things years ago with some people and I still feel tiny feelings of guilt-Even when things ended on good terms. That’s how bad it is for me. But what really helps me get over those feelings of guilt is keeping in mind the bigger picture. It’s simply all about your attitude and perspective. Allow yourself to learn and grow from it. Let it go and be happy! I can honestly say the more I keep the bigger picture in mind the happier I am within dating! I used to dread going on dates and ‘dating’ in general, but now I am content regardless of if something works out or not!

What are some ways you’re going to stop the ‘dating guilt’ from getting to you? How are you going to learn from it?

I really hope all of this made sense. My brain is all over the place with the excitement of my YouTube video! Happy dating!

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