Lately I have been purposefully avoiding dating, why? Because I just haven’t been excited about it. Too often I’d find myself not really being excited about being on dates, getting to know guys that I’d probably never see again. And so I stopped going on dates. I thought about it, and to me, unless I’m excited about going on a date, I wasn’t going to go. I would much rather go on dates when I am excited about it. Because if the date turned into a relationship I wouldn’t want to later on say, ‘oh ya I wasn’t even excited to go on our first date.’ Plus if you go on dates when you aren’t excited about them, then you won’t be as prone to getting to know them, it won’t be as genuine. And the person taking you on that date deserves your excitement, just as you deserve theirs.

While I was in New York City, I stayed with one of my close friends and her husband and they wanted to set me up with someone. Honestly, at first, I didn’t want to go, but I decided that I should change my attitude about it and go on the date and allow myself to be excited about going. So I did just that, I chose to go into it thinking that it’d be fun to go on a date, especially in New York City! If it goes somewhere awesome, if not that’s okay, either way I was going to be excited and have fun. And guess what I actually had a really good time. Because I went in being excited about it. It made all the difference.

Sometimes there are people you know that it would probably never form into a relationship, and although they may be eager to take you on a date, if you aren’t excited about it, don’t go. Don’t lead them on. I get the concept that ‘you never know’ and it just might end up going somewhere, but also like I said before if you aren’t going into it being excited you probably shouldn’t go at all. I know for a fact it is possible to be excited about seeing someone, and I know for a fact that it’s possible to go on dates with someone that you aren’t super excited about. Why settle for the later? You deserve to have butterflies when it comes to seeing someone, you deserve feeling like you can have fun going to the grocery store with someone, you deserve to be excited about someone. Dating should be fun and exciting, it’s a time when you are figuring out what you do and not want within a future spouse, don’t allow it to be a burden. Allow it to be an excitement.

Where am I? The Flat Iron Building in NYC. If you haven’t been here I highly recommend going. Everywhere you look in this area is an architectural heaven.

XOXO

Lex