I know I’ve touched on this topic lightly before but something happened last week and I’ve felt like I needed to share a couple ways that I’ve dealt with feelings of insecurity, it’s opened my eyes to different insecurities that we all face throughout our lives. You might not have insecurities stem from a situation similar to mine, but we all have insecurities in one way or another.

 Someone said something to me last week that has stuck with me, it had me re-evaluating absolutely everything.  What was said has had me absolutely picking myself apart. Have you ever stayed up all night because you were overanalyzing a situation, picking yourself apart, letting insecurities run rapid in your mind? For the past week I have. Maybe it was simply a huge miscommunication, or maybe it’s a reminder that what you say to others can make an impact. Either way I am choosing to learn from it.

Sleepless nights, thinking of every little moment spent together and upset about what had lead this person to think that about me. I couldn’t stop analyzing how I could’ve been different, thinking about what’s wrong with me or what I did wrong when I thought things were going so well. If this person thinks that, what does everyone else think? What are others’ perspectives on me? Is anyone I’m interested in ever going to give me a chance?

Overanalyzing this much lead to me feeling insecure. And those insecurities made me so mad. The fact that I even felt insecure about any of it left me feeling incredibly defeated.

I do not want this one conversation that lead to me feeling hurt and insecure to define how I move forward in life. I don’t want these insecurities to turn into something that is normal for me. So I began thinking of ways that I could stop these insecurities in their tracks, to turn it into something positive despite how defeated I feel.

-When you are feeling insecure about anything, please remember that those insecurities DO NOT define you. 

There are a million things that each of us could feel insecure about on a daily basis. We are human and we all have insecurities. Those insecurities do have the ability to run our lives, but they don’t have to. You are so much more than what you might be insecure about. What you are feeling insecure about DOES NOT need to define who you are as a person. When you choose to dwell on your insecurities you are only giving them more power. The more power your insecurities have, the more they start to define you.

-Don’t let words or actions that hurt stay inside your head.

When you’re hurt by words or actions, don’t let them stew inside your head. This will only lead to more over analyzing and it does you no good. It’s normal to feel insecure-especially when you’re feeling upset, but it doesn’t mean you always need to feel that way. Life is WAY too short to allow any hurtful words or actions to affect us to the point that they turn into insecurities.

-Remind yourself that you are a Child Of God. 

If you aren’t religious this suggestion is right along the lines of choosing self-love, having self-worth and rising above your own faults. Remember that you are a Child Of God. See yourself in a way that Our Heavenly Father sees you. Let Him lift your insecurities. I’m stubborn and so this ones a bit hard for me, but I promise when you start seeing yourself through the eyes of Heavenly Father and you depend upon Him it all gets so much easier.

The above are just a couple of ways I’ve been able to keep insecurities from sticking. Acknowledging that your insecurities do not define you is a great place to start. How do you keep your insecurities from defining you??

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